Well, there are many ways and technics you can use. From controlling your breathing, working with crystals, doing physical exercises like yoga or many many more. But perhaps “the mother of them all” is quieting your mind with meditation.
- Just sit down and stand still.
Is it that simple? Yes and no. Sitting still can seriously help to sort out your thoughts and more likely than not you will start to feel you have more control of your mind and therefore your life. The ideal space is a quiet one with no distractions or constant sounds like forest, desert, sea or friendly neighborhood. Recommended time vary in daytime and length. You should do that what feels right for you. These are two good ways to do it: 20-30 minutes in the morning and the evening or about 1 hour when it feels right for you. Regarding body position, during meditation, only one thing seems to be really important and that is straight back. The lotus position is possibly the best, but if it feels too difficult, it might not be the best idea to start with it right way.
- Various teachers differ in opinion whether meditation aims to get all of the thoughts out or if you just should not be swayed by them.
If you do have the luxury of a quiet environment, great. If not, don’t worry about it. Actually, whatever you do, do not worry. You wanted to have a good feeling about you, remember? That is the goal. Going to meditate only to be frustrated about it - how you do it wrong, not long enough or criticizing yourself in any way is just not fulfilling the purpose.
The ultimate goal is not to get rid of every obstacle, but rather to be able to be at peace in every situation. The mighty person is not the one who can avoid all obstacles, but the one who can deal with any that come his/her way.
- “If there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do me no harm.” ~ African Proverb
You can also learn to quiet your mind in a “noisy” situations and environments. One of the ways to do it is just to meditate on that squeaky sound, singing birds, your breath or whatever sound you hear. Similarly, you can meditate on the pain in your body - maybe caused by new way of sitting. You can start a much shorter time than suggested, only a few minutes and go from there.
Many authors are willing to give you tips. The inspiration for this text has been The Joy of Living: Unlocking the Secret and Science of Happiness.